So why then do narcissists hate sick people so much? It seems pretty cold, even for a narcissistic personality. But if you look at it this way, when you’re sick, you can’t serve the narcissist. And to them, serving them is your purpose. So you can’t live up to your end of the bargain. You see, narcissists look at everything transactionally. And when you can’t provide whatever service they need in the moment, you’re useless to them. And trust me, you’re going to feel it.
And I mentioned two exceptions to this hatred earlier:
The first is when the narcissist is in the love bombing or hoovering phases of the relationship. In these moments, they’ll go above and beyond to make you feel cared for. Because remember, it’s a transaction. They need you to get on board or back on board, and they need you to adore them. And for that service, for that transaction, they’re willing to sacrifice and put you first in that moment.
The second exception is what we call an altruistic narcissist. This is a narcissist who gets supply from helping others. And even though they may seem selfless, they have a hidden motive. They want to be seen as the savior. So by helping others, they are making themselves look better. And trust me, they will not hesitate to brag about these selfless acts. So this type of narcissist is definitely more difficult to spot and much better to have around when you’re sick. But if you get the sense that they’re using your pain to elevate themselves in some way, it’s definitely a red flag.
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