They suddenly appear on a call, even when you’re not directly talking to them but to someone else in the same environment. The narcissist will drop in, disappear, or take over the phone call, forcing you to deal with them. It’s like a scene from a horror movie, where the ghost suddenly appears from behind you and then vanishes. That’s exactly what this narcissist does.
Here’s a scary example to illustrate: In the later stages of my no-contact policy with my narcissistic family, I maintained some contact with my covert narcissistic mother because I was still trauma-bonded to her, trying to hold on to some hope. There was none, but you know how it works. I made it very clear to her not to call me when her husband was around. But she, being an enabler, would intentionally do so to gain his approval and stay in his good books. To me, she acted like he was the biggest enemy, but this is what he would do—drop ghostly appearances. He would suddenly say “Hi” or “Hello” in the middle of a conversation and then go silent, closely observing how my voice changed. He knew, and back then he knew very well, that I panicked in his presence, which gave him power. He waited for that, and that’s what he reveled in. “I still have control over him. See? He still flinches. It still bothers him. And he says he has moved on. I still own his mind.” That’s malice, which is why I call him a psychopathic narcissist.
Sometimes, after saying “Hi” initially, he would grab the phone 10 or 20 minutes later, take it from her, and start talking at me, about things that sounded so fake. He doesn’t know how to show affection because he’s an overt narcissist. That’s what I mean when I say they appear like a ghost—sometimes, you can’t leave the room; you have to face it, and that’s a really weird, yet malignant, behavior.
Weird behavior number four: They talk, talk, talk at you, but have zero patience for listening.
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