A narcissist feels truly empowered when you unknowingly and unintentionally play the role they impose on you. You may be defending yourself, explaining yourself, or justifying yourself, thinking, Oh, I am defeating that dnarcissist. Oh, I am giving them a tough fight. Yet, without realizing it, you are providing exactly the kind of supply they need from you.
Unfortunately, we often develop habits in such relationships that backfire, placing the narcissist on a pedestal and giving them ammunition to use against us. What am I talking about?
Introduction to the Topic
I’m Danish, a narcissistic abuse recovery professional. Today, we’re discussing five everyday habits that empower a narcissist.
Why are these important to know? If you’re dealing with a narcissist, it’s essential to understand what not to do to avoid giving them the “premium supply” they crave. This will help you save your energy and learn what truly needs to happen to defeat them.
Stay until the very end, as the insights I’ll share are influenced by my personal experiences.
Habit 1: Over-Explaining
The first habit is over-explaining yourself. You may think, If I explain myself better, simplify my point, or approach the issue from a different angle, they’ll understand, and we’ll reach an agreement or reconciliation.
But here’s the bad news: it will never happen.
Why? Because the narcissist is not genuinely interested in your explanations. They want you to exhaust yourself trying to justify your decisions, emotions, needs, or desires.
Explaining basic human decency to someone who is supposed to already understand it is draining. The truth is, they don’t care about doing the right thing—it doesn’t serve their ego.
Over-explaining only empowers them. They manipulate you further, using your explanations as “proof” that you’re at fault. If you didn’t make a mistake, why are you explaining yourself? they’ll argue.
This cycle makes them feel self-righteous and more confident in their abuse, reinforcing their belief that they are always right.
Habit 2: Unnecessary Apologies
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