They may say, “I’m sorry, I was caught in traffic,” or “I was with my kid,” but they won’t show any genuine remorse. You may suppress your intuition, which may be screaming, “This is bad. They are disrespecting you.” You continue the meeting and get right into what you were supposed to do with them. But then they don’t end the meeting on time. It was supposed to end at 10:00 a.m., but they continue, non-consensually, and end it at 10:18 a.m. This shows they feel entitled. It has to be their way; it cannot work on your terms, even though you have been the one waiting patiently. They take more time without caring if someone else is waiting for you on another call. If you try to end it, they will lose it, and you know how it goes from there on.
Now, this is not a one-time thing; it’s not even just two times. It keeps happening, and they turn it into a pattern. They intentionally test you by being deliberately late to see how much you can take, how much they can destroy your boundaries, and how much they can play with your emotions. It is such an annoying behavior, and when you finally take a stand and say, “This is unacceptable. I’m not ready to take this. I’m not willing to work with you anymore if this is what you do,” that is when they will call you a bad consultant, leave a bad review, and say horrible things.
Now, let’s discuss the other aspect of the same annoying behavior. They may be extremely punctual. Now, it’s good to be punctual; everyone should be punctual and respect other people’s time if they want their time to be respected. That is a given—no exceptions. But sometimes, things happen, and you try to email the other person to let them know you’ll be late. Let me give you an example to explain this better. You are in a relationship with a narcissist, and they are waiting for you at their home. They say, “Be here by 9,” and you know nothing big is going on—it’s not an emergency, you don’t have to go anywhere. So, you get caught up with some things at home: you’re taking care of your kids, you have to buy some stuff, and so on. You don’t arrive at 9 a.m.; it’s 9:02 or something.
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