Life coach Tony Robbins reminds us that “how we communicate with others and ourselves determines the quality of our lives.” Use these imaginary rehearsals as tools, but don’t let them replace genuine connections.
10. Obsessive Planning
You might find yourself obsessively planning every detail of your life to avoid surprises. Therapist Dr. Karen K. Hooper notes that overplanning can create a false sense of control but also make life rigid and stressful.
While planning can be helpful, leave room for spontaneity. As life coach Marie Forleo reminds us, “Success doesn’t come from what you do occasionally—it comes from what you do consistently.”
In conclusion, the self-defense mechanisms you’ve developed after narcissistic abuse are more than quirks; they are survival tools your mind created to help you cope. While these strategies can be helpful, it’s important to work towards healing and building healthier ways to connect with yourself and others. Embrace your uniqueness, and don’t hesitate to seek support—you deserve to thrive beyond the challenges you’ve faced.
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