While this can make you feel safer, it can also create misunderstandings. Clear communication is key to building healthier relationships. Being straightforward might help you reclaim your voice and foster better connections.
3. Overexplaining
You may catch yourself overexplaining everything you do, as though you need to justify your actions to avoid criticism. It’s like a reflex, developed from worrying that others might judge or blame you. Therapist Dr. Jennifer Sweeton notes that facing constant criticism from a narcissist can rewire your mind to seek validation through excessive justification.
While clear communication is valuable, remember that you don’t owe anyone lengthy explanations for your choices. Trust your instincts and remind yourself that saying, “This is what I’m doing, and that’s enough,” is perfectly okay.
4. Self-Deprecating Humor
Using self-deprecating humor—joking at your own expense—can become a shield after narcissistic abuse. It’s a way to beat others to the punch when it comes to criticism. While humor can be a helpful coping mechanism, constantly putting yourself down can harm your self-esteem.
Psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff reminds us that “self-compassion is not self-deprecation.” Treat yourself with kindness instead of harshness. Laugh at yourself occasionally, but balance it with self-respect and affirmation.
5. Repetitive Mantras
Repetitive mantras—repeating affirmations like “I am enough” or “I deserve respect”—can help counter the negative messages you’ve internalized. Life coach Mel Robbins emphasizes that words are powerful; repeating positive mantras can retrain your brain and reinforce your self-esteem.
Keep these mantras handy—they’re not just words but reminders of your worth and the boundaries you deserve to set.
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