After experiencing narcissistic abuse, you might notice yourself falling into the habit of compulsively Googling things, looking for validation or reassurance online. It’s like you’re trying to find answers to questions that might have been dismissed or belittled during your abusive situation. As psychologist Dr. Alexander Solomon explains, “When you’ve been told your feelings don’t matter, you might turn to the internet to find someone who agrees with you.” It can lead to over-researching every little detail, spending way too much time gathering information just to feel secure and avoid making mistakes. To cope with compulsive Googling, set specific limits on your search time and remind yourself that external validation often increases doubt rather than providing reassurance.
4 Engaging in Impulsive Spending
After going through narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself turning into a shopping ninja, wielding your credit card like a weapon against emotional pain. It’s like every trip to the store becomes a mini therapy session, where those cute shoes or that random gadget feel like instant happiness—even if it’s just for a moment. As psychotherapist Dr. John Amodo puts it, “People often shop to fill an emotional void, thinking new things will make them feel better.” But let’s be real: that temporary high can quickly turn into a financial hangover, leaving you with a closet full of stuff you didn’t need. To cope with impulsive spending, consider this tip: establish a budget and practice mindful shopping by delaying purchases for 24 hours to help differentiate between genuine needs and emotional impulses.
3 Engaging in Self-Care Extremes
After dealing with narcissistic abuse, some people go to crazy extremes with self-care. One minute, they’re pampering themselves like royalty, indulging in spa days and bubble baths; the next, they’re skipping meals or neglecting their basic needs altogether. This swing can happen because you’re trying to reclaim a sense of control and comfort, but it often just leads to more confusion and stress. As Dr. Ramane Deasa says, “When you’ve been through narcissistic abuse, it’s like you’re navigating a maze of self-doubt, and self-care can feel like an all-or-nothing endeavor.” Listen carefully: aim for a balanced routine by incorporating small, consistent self-care practices that prioritize both indulgence and basic needs without swinging to either extreme.
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