This one’s fairly extensive. This taps into the excessive need for admiration that narcissists have. Be sincere—these aren’t perfunctory compliments. They have to be delivered with some level of sincerity, a higher level of sincerity. Be impressed when the narcissist tells you about themselves, some sort of skill they have. You really have to react somewhat strongly, not over-the-top, but kind of impressed, like, “Wow, I understand why people are so impressed with your work.” Use statements like, “You should run for president,” or, “You should be the owner of this company.” Narcissists often like to identify with high-status individuals, so you could compare them to famous people. Also, communicate that you understand they are already legendary. If they pay a compliment in return, tell them it really means something coming from them.
Double-check the advice from competent people with the narcissist.
If you get advice from somebody in a company setting, go to the narcissist and say, “I just wanted to get your thoughts before proceeding with this advice.” This expert gave me advice, but what do you think? This gives you a way to make peace with a narcissist without actually having to follow the narcissist’s advice.
Be mad on behalf of the narcissist.
Understand why they don’t like other people and connect with that a little bit. You could say something like, “It’s sad that others would treat you so poorly; they can’t see how great you are.” Empathize with the narcissist, showing you understand their point of view and get upset along with them at other people who are hurting or offending them.
Ask for their advice and be amazed by their reply.
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