Imagine this: you bought a box of chocolates but could not savor even a bit of it because you forgot it somewhere. You would long for the taste, right? Conversely, if you are being targeted by selfish narcissists, you possess something they want. Well, not you specifically, but the thing you possess that they desperately want to exploit. Leaving a narcissist behind without giving in to what they desire will make them long for you. Like the box of chocolates, you wouldn’t care about the box itself but about what is inside. Similarly, narcissists don’t want you; they want what is inside you. You are merely a vessel that currently houses their desires. Once the narcissist takes what they want from you, they will discard you, making you feel like trash—just like that box of chocolates. But remember this: once tasted, cravings arise, and that is why narcissists miss you.
Number 3: The Narcissist Does Not Miss You but the ‘Feeling’ You Make Them Feel
The narcissist does not miss you; rather, they long for the feelings you invoke in them. For example, a narcissistic husband may need a submissive wife to demonstrate and prove his dominance. If that submissive wife leaves, the narcissistic husband will never truly miss her; instead, he will desperately beg for her return because he longs for the dominance or power he felt through her presence. Narcissists want to appear special and superior to everyone else, but they cannot do it on their own. Their displays of superiority will not convince others—nor themselves—if they are the only ones who believe it. They must first be worshipped to be considered high or mighty, which is what narcissists believe. This applies equally to narcissists who need someone inferior to showcase their superiority. They require validation from others to make their fantasies or whims seem believable.
Number 4: Your Absence Does Not Support the Narcissist’s Fantasies
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